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Tuesday, March 29, 2005

Change...

A lot of my friends are moving on to a new phase in their lives. Some are getting married, some are moving to new places, some are starting a new job; the common thing that faces all of them is change.

Everytime I encountered something new, I used to panic: new people, new places, new customs and norms; the very high learning curve in all areas; the feeling of being the "outsider" in a land of natives. I never got any mollycoddling. If a school bully harassed me at a new place, I used to run to my dad crying. He used to say that I should take care of it myself. Not much comfort when you are totally scared and want someone to take care of you badly ( I used to wish I had an elder brother)!! Of course, now all that seems ridiculous and trivial. But back then, it was of paramount importance. In retrospect, I think my dad's approach was the best.

I remember the number of times when I had to learn stuff the hard way just because I was new to a place. It hurt; it was painful and not at all welcome. But it taught me to adapt and to learn. It taught me that no matter how difficult a situation is at first, it gets better as time goes on. There's no place on this earth that you can hate forever and nor are there people whom you can despise always.

Change is scary. But I've found that it is the tool that forces us to confront new things and master them. Without change, we are doomed to be static beings. Changes and problems call forth our wisdom and courage. Pain is the precursor to progress.

I am not that wise or old enough to give out suggestions. But, those out there fearing where life will lead them in the near future, you can discover new lands only if you lose sight of the shore. All the Best.

"The tree that never had to fight
For sun and sky and air and light,
But stood out in the open rain
And always got its share and rain,
Never became a forest king
But lived and died a scrubby thing...
Good timber does not grow with ease,
The stronger wind, the stronger trees."
-DOUGLAS MALLOCH

19 comments:

Kay said...

As i am goin thru the phase u r talkin about i can feel the post....

The poem goes well with ur post.

Freeyavedu said...

Comment ezhutha mudiyala... Posta ezhuthitaen. http://freeyavedu.blogspot.com/2005/03/only-thing-that-is-constant-is-change.html

Praveen said...

arumai arumai, kavithai kavithai, abirami abirami :)

That was an awesome post! :)

Muthukumar Puranam said...

When changes confound you, get hold of the "Unchangable", like a sailor refers to "dhruva" star.
I guess changes also include birth, death, ageing etc. When thought deeply
one can really find out "Nothing never happens", else all our laws of conservation must be wrong.

Anonymous said...

Hey that was really a nice quote....and I enjoy reading u r blogs....Great..write more often

Subha said...

adhanala makkale, sogathai vittu jolly-a irunga...romba

Chakra Sampath said...

> adhanala makkale, sogathai vittu jolly-a irunga...romba

- okay madame!

Anonymous said...

thats awesome subha

keep it up!
Of the bloggers here u are the best

cheer

Anonymous said...

thats awesome subha

keep it up!
Of the bloggers here u are the best

cheer

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Anonymous said...
"
thats awesome subha

keep it up!
Of the bloggers here u are the best

cheer
"

Is anonymous synonymous with Subha ? Overda Sami ... Nee yae ezhuthitiya anonymousna enra paerla.

Kay said...

Adi pavi ethukku intha vilambaram anonymous perula neeye eluthikittiya.
Illati evulo kaaasu kudutha itha eluthurathukku :)

Freeyavedu said...

Subha.. I can guess who this mad fan of yours can be. Arasiyalla ethu ellam sagajam. Nee nadathu.

visithra said...

Good one - change and obstacles makes a better person, stronger, more resillient, good luck :)

Subha said...

Freeyavidu and Kay, enakku vera velai vettiye illainu ninaichiteengala??? neenga panra velai ellam naan panradhillai...he he.

Anonymous said...

ennadhu idhu change is good appidinnu ellam sollitu blog change aagave matengudhu....

ammani said...

Such a good read. Loved the poem at the end. Looking forward to more.
Cheers!

Anonymous said...

Its very important that one learns to stand up against all odds but then its only the very few who get to do it.
Phoenix