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Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Wistfully me..

I caught up with a friend over phone after a really long time. It seemed to me like it was just now that we were in college. But it had indeed been a while! So we yapped around, condensing happenings of the past few months into a 40 minute conversation.

It made me wistful to think that I'd missed so many happenings in his life. It used to be that we once shared the most mundane, trivial things of our daily life. And yet, time constraints and other pressures make it impossible for me to do that now. After a day at work , gym, cooking, cleaning etc..it seems a gargantuan task to pick up the phone and talk to people on a daily basis.

Am I missing being a part of so many people's lives - friends and family? Does anyone (at least occassionally) notice my absence during important events? Does anyone want me in their lives? I wonder if some of my friends or relatives stop to think of me once in a while. I know I do. Or perhaps I am just another pebble in the riverbed and the river of life never stops flowing for anyone. It makes no difference to the river if one pebble is present or not. If all human bonds are so effervescent, why do we even try to be social? Perhaps its an evolutionary safeguard to maintain pack unity.

There are people who leave an indelible mark on society for at least the next few years or centuries. And then there are the commoners like me who'd not be missed or mourned. I don't aspire to be a celebrity. But I'd like to strive to be remembered amongst people I know.

12 comments:

Aarthi said...

Hi Subha,
I can really relate to what you say about not being able to talk anyone at the end of the day. Life is really hectic!
I tried to get around this by making a effort to talk to atleast one friend a day, but alas sometimes I don't remember my decision.
anyways...about you not making a difference, ofcourse you do!
think about the smile you gave to your colleague or to an unknown person who was working on your adjacent treadmill, think about the people you have lunch and most of all think about the people who read your blog and enjoy it, you did make a small difference in their life...
Life is so short, I guess that is why people have kids, to leave a part of us back here and to be remembered atleast by them! Have a nice day..

HN said...

I guess this is an opportunity to say something I always wanted to say:You are one of the people who makes things complete..atleast in my eyes..Hey,am thankful that I got to meet you!

viswajith.k.n said...

nice one...something that even I felt at times...but I make sure that I do stay in touch with them calling them over the weekends...But have you ever thought of one fact...Some of the blame might also rest upon us coz we might not have not been responsible enough to call them or keep in touch with them often...Again if some of us are egoistic enough to think that "Eppavume naan daan call pannanumaa" then thats the end of whatever relationship we had with the person...

Desiguy said...

This is one common issue every being is facing in the busy world. I agree that its hard to keep track of everyones life. But there is always something interesting about someone which I ask whenever I get in touch with them. Simple things like howz ur diet goin, how was ur trip to so and so place makes them feel happy and excited. Then they say something interesting which adds up to the previous incident.. Idha dhaan pottu vanguradhunu solluvaangalo... Nway it helps me a lot to keep track of everyone... Once in a while ppl need to be left alone and then asked about what they did in the interim... Don't worry that u rn't being noticed. I still remember our past discussion of the sweets u bought from India... I would say gimme some if they aren't fungus infected.... :)) have fun.... Nsai life....

Subha said...

Aarthi,
thanks for the pep talk..:)

hn,
thanks a lot!

viswajith

calling ku ego ellam illai..nerame illai, apram enga ego!

hari,
i am not so sure its about being unnoticed..its making a significant difference in someone's life, i guess...

viswajith.k.n said...

naeram illai abdinu solradu is a farce according to me. Nambuluku indha vetti magazines like kumudham etc etc padika naeram irrukum bozhudu oru call panni paesarduku time irrukaadaa? I mite be wrong in this case but thats the general opinion that I have...

Subha said...

Viswajith,
indha "nambalukku" la naan illai..nijamave, naan mags padikkarduh ellam aadi ku oru dharam, amavasai ku orudharam..:)

Priya said...

hello.. ennamaa idhellam.. ore psentiyaa irukuu..

naan unna adikadi nenachupen..inga ivlo calmaa irukku..anga u were the crowd puller at apt 8 :)-

Muthukumar said...

intha 14 per kadhaiya inga aarambikadha priya..erkanave oru round poiduchu indha matter..ask dins

Priya said...

14 per kadhaiyaa??? adhu enna kadhai???nejamma 14 per kadhai ellam enakku theriyaadhu

nishant said...

good one,thats how life is meant to be.Change is the only permanent thing in life.
A thought that comes to every one, but a very few express...

Anonymous said...

enna Subha, ippo lam adikkadi introspect panre? :)

-Viji